A Very Honest Post to End 2013

As I reflect on this past year, a few words come to mind: exhilaration, exhaustion, growth, opportunities, disappointment, triumph.
 

2013 was definitely a very interesting year. It was filled with a lot of opportunities that I didn’t plan for, they found me. The majority of those opportunities became blessings and I am so very thankful for them. We also opened our first brick and mortar location in 2013 and with that came exhilaration, exhaustion, growth and a lot more opportunities that we could have asked for and feel so blessed that they came our way.  And right along side all of that came some serious disappointment.  I’m going to try my best not to sound like Debbie Downer here, but I saw the side of some people this past year that I wish I hadn’t seen.
 

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My Word of the Year for 2013 was “Surrender”.  Interesting choice.  I definitely had a lot of imperfect moments myself, and I definitely ran with everything that came my way and “surrendered” to them.  I rode the wave of imperfect days for sure.  What I’ve had a hard time surrendering to, however, is why people choose to do and say what they do.  I need to learn to be better about rolling with those kind of punches.
 

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I had to go inward quite a few times this year and avoid all people because I was too hurt, too afraid and too unsure of what might happen next.  I’ve found my trusted circle is getting smaller and smaller the older I get.  But I’ve definitely become more comfortable and “okay” with it.
 

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I’m no longer willing to let it get me down.  I’m moving forward.  I can’t control what others think, feel, say or do.  This is where the “triumph” in 2013 comes in: I’ve also been blessed to meet some absolutely incredible, kind, thoughtful, inspiring people in 2013 and I’m going to concentrate on them instead in 2014.
 

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My circle may be smaller at the end of 2013 than it was at the beginning, but I am pretty darn proud of who’s coming with me in to 2014.  It’s going to be an absolutely amazing year!  I’m going to make sure of it!
 

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  1. Oh goodness, as they say – “been there and done that” – teehee…
    Always sad to “let go”, whether it’s people or possessions but, in the end, it’s generally the right thing to do. I read something a while back about “friends of the road” and “friends of the heart” – friends of the road come into our lives for a short term purpose – to teach us something or to learn something from us. Once that happens, their purpose in our life is over so they move on (or we do). Friends of the heart? Well, ’nuff said on that one; they are the ones who will be there thru thick and thin and be happy for you when you are successful and will sit down and cry with you when things don’t go well…but then they’ll nicely kick you in the rear to get movin’ again.

    Have a very Happy New Year and I love your posts!

  2. Anita in SC says:

    God Bless you and keep following His lead and your heart!

  3. Docia Fuller says:

    This is very common when you open your own bussiness ! Been there done that and have the scares to prove it.

  4. Patty Soriano says:

    yes. Yes. YES ! This is how I’ve had to handle things the past few years. I’ve hated to make the decision to let some people go, but it was right for me at the time. Either they didn’t bring anything to my table, or they were takers and not givers, or they were complete downers that dragged me down every time I saw them. There is enough negative in my life without having someone bring me theirs. Not to say that I have a lot of negative, I don’t, because I refuse to feed it. But if I cannot solve someone else’s issues, then I shouldn’t keep them in my life. The bad energy caused stress in my life where it shouldn’t have been. Although I sometimes might miss those folks, I do not miss the gnawed lips and hair-pulling that they sometimes caused. My circle has become smaller, but it has also become richer. You won’t regret it. Happy New Year, Laura!

  5. Here is to a blessed 2014!

  6. Boy, could I tell you my story! Sometimes, you have to clean through the chaff before you can get to the wheat. I have been where you have been and where you are now. Know that there are those who will be thinking of you as you begin this new year.

    Take care.
    Emily

  7. It sounds like the world has been hard an a little disappointing this year. I hope next year people don’t let you down or maybe you won’t let them get you down.

  8. Great post. Love the posters especially the cha-cha.

  9. Laura,
    Sorry to hear that you had some people get you down (you are not alone)…I have found in the past year that when good things are happening to me…that some people get so jealous…how sad:( I try so hard to bring people up…just wish more people would do the same. I hope that 2014 will be a great one for ya and your family. Happy New Year Laura!!!

    Blessings,
    Linda

  10. I’m almost 62 years old and let me tell you, people never cease to amaze me. My year, also, has been full of surprises and disappointments regarding people that I thought were my friends, people I always wanted the best for but apparently didn’t feel the same for me. It doesn’t help to focus on the hurt but to just move forward and learn from the past. Be aware, be careful and don’t forget to love, no matter what. Happy 2014.

  11. Very nice post, also very inspiring. I don’t know what exactly you experienced, but I have been there. And you are spot on when you talk about those that will go forward with you in 2014. You should be proud of them and proud of you for letting go of those that you no longer need, however hard that May have been. Here’s to an amazing 2014 for you!

  12. It’s a lovely thing…watching you grow. Happy New Year, dear. : )

  13. Wonderful insights. When one considers that we arrive here to express free will and to learn and grow in consciousness, I’d say that you are doing a spectacular job of embracing the concept. Happy New Year to you! Jan

  14. Nicely said. It’s good to be honest and say it like you see it! I love the Cha Cha!

  15. I’m sorry you had some tough times and experienced the unpleasantness that some people bring along with them. All of your quotes are great thoughts to keep in mind. I have one more, “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.” Best wishes for a truly happy 2014 and thanks for your lovely blog–I especially enjoyed the account of your solo trip to PA and MD last Fall and admire your bravery!

  16. tough times can get you down…and the people who cause them don’t deserve a second glance…it’s a hard lesson to learn, but everything happens for a reason and some people aren’t meant to be in our lives forever…do what feels good for YOU and let the rest sort itself out – it’s sometimes easier said than done, but in the end, the people who are meant to be around you will be

    Happy New Year!

  17. You have experienced what most of us do every year. The best way to handle this is to become strong, continue from your heart and not worry about those who have hurt you. Easier said tha done but in my 67 years I find it better to remember the good people and not the disappointing ones. Great blog and I look forward to following you in 2014!

  18. I pray that 2014 holds promise and peace for you. Your courage to “tell the truth” in this blog is an inspiration to us all.

    Blessings!

  19. Feel good about having a “circle” no matter it’s size…I have found there is a season for large and small circles…..roll with it, darling….good things are coming your way…you were a total delight to meet at the pop up barn sale in Tennessee.
    Best of luck in the new year!
    Erin
    Xoxo

  20. I am 66….maybe the oldest of those responding, so far. I imagine we have all been right there with you, at different times in our lives. Mine even involve letting family members go and having to recognize them in a way that was painful but true. Life is too short to surround oneself with people that do not make us feel safe. Safe is a lovely place to be. I wish us all that word for 2014. Love reading your blog…CeCe

  21. I’m always amazed at how ugly some people can be. It is difficult to learn to let things go, not because I am angry and want to confront whomever was hurtful, but because whatever they did hurt my feelings. Instead of focusing on all the good things that happen to me I have a tendency to dwell on the negative. You are special and you have so much going for you it is only natural for some to be jealous What they don’t see is how hard you have worked to achieve your success. When we met we both expressed our love of crosses and I expressed a love of the peace sign and you said you did not share that desire. Well one reason I love the peace sign is because I would love nothing better than for there be peace on earth. Peace among men. I don’t understand why people have to be so hurtful. I just continue to pray for guidance. My hope for you my sweet friend is a year filled with nothing but blessings!

    Peace,
    Debbie @ Flower Child Designs

  22. I am going to take a whack at this and guess that some “friends” and family were less than supportive in 2013 and it probably led to some days or weeks where you felt so terrible you couldn’t get out of bed and your joy was depleted.

    So many of us want to see our dreams come to pass that we get nasty jealous when we see you succeeding at yours. What we don’t see is how incredibly courageous you were to take that leap of faith, the financial investments you made, the fears you have about going into business for yourself, and the long, laborious days spent on getting to where you are.

    Try with all of your might to see through a veil of love and understanding at those who disappointed you. They probably are feeling so weak next to your strength and they lashed out when they should have been cheering for you. Also, being successful and happy is the best form of revenge:)

    Cheers to you in 2014 and much success!

    Christine

  23. Laura it was such a pleasure meeting you in Franklin this past Oct. Loved what you had to say in this post. I too love the chalkboard Optimist quote (so much I shared it on Pinterest). Happy New Year to ya!

  24. Very good post Laura! And you’re definitely on my list of ‘inspiring, encouraging, kind’ people I’ve met this year. Also a year of growth, opportunities, exhaustion. Best wishes for you and your family for a happy 2014. Let’s stay in touch!

  25. Surrender to what is
    Let go of what was
    Have faith in what will be
    Sonia Ricotti

  26. Laura I’ve had some of the same thing in the past couple of years. I hope 2014 is wonderful for you and pray God blesses you with truly wonderful things!

  27. Great post Laura. And I am here to support you in 2014. Happy New Year. It will be a good one!

  28. Laura: Always enjoy your posts and have great admiration for your abilities. Just remove the negative people and stick with the positive…I stuck in a negative relationship for over 13 years and when it was over I felt like the world had been lifted off my shoulder and I was free as a bird! I knew it was wrong for me for several years but was worried about “hurting his feelings.” I hope your 2014 will be happy for you and keep those great posts coming! {{HUGD}} Joy

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