Clarification and a Facebook Link Party!

The response to the Vowing to be Different post was absolutely overwhelming.  I had no idea I was going to strike such a strong chord with a lot of you.  In fact, since I opened The Ironstone Nest Facebook page, it’s the status that’s received the most likes and the most comments.  I also received several private emails with sad stories of feeling ignored.  What a bummer!

Well, if you know me in real life, you’d know that you rarely have to wonder what I’m thinking or how I’m feeling.  I say what I mean and I mean what I say.  I’m an honest, sometimes too honest, kind of gal.  I’m not naive.  I realize you either love or hate that kind of a person.  You either want them as your friend, or merely tolerate them when they’re in your presence.  For me, I wish more people were brutally honest.  I appreciate raw honesty.  It’s absolutely refreshing to me.

So, I said it.  Yes, I did.  And I meant what I said, so you won’t find me backpedaling today, but I do need to clarify exactly what I meant.

I do not think the cliquey-ness is a “mean girl” kind of situation.  Not in any way shape or form.  All bloggers are fantastic, creative, inspirational people and I do not believe anyone consciously intends to exclude anyone!  I do not mean to imply that at all.  The blogging community I’ve encountered has been very helpful and very friendly.  I’ve made some incredible friends that I never would have met were it not for this blog.  I’ve learned a ton from some very selfless bloggers!  Personally, I’ve had a wonderful experience in blogland so far and I don’t want to discourage anyone from joining in.

What I am speaking to is the fact that it’s totally predictable when a “big” blogger shares another “big” blogger on their Facebook page (i.e., “look what my friend at ____ did”) or spotlights another “big” blogger on their blog.  Big bloggers do incredible things which is why they’re so popular and deserve the recognition!  However, most of us are probably already following the blog that’s being featured anyways, and already knew about the project.  The blog world is small so most of already follow “so and so” and “so and so”, therefore, we already knew about their magazine feature, or that fantastic project they just finished.  But wouldn’t it be totally surprising, totally reckless, if a small blogger (under 500 followers) got a shout-out from a major blogger?  Or if a small blogger was featured in a magazine because of a fantastic project they did?  Isn’t that what you’d all secretly love to have happen?  It’s in our human nature to want to be noticed.  And heck, aren’t you spending your time blogging with the hopes that someone will notice you?  That is my hope and my desire for you.  Period.

I am a nobody.  I’m just a woman with a DIY attitude, a love of antiques and an OCD tendency to redecorate constantly so I started a blog to share what I do with you.  I had no idea anyone would find what I did to be interesting, until I discovered there were thousands of people out there writing blogs.  But, if I can inspire someone with this blog, than that’s enough reason to continue doing it.  If I can help someone, well then that’s a total bonus!

The flood of requests to be featured began pouring in to my email inbox immediately.  I will start posting features once a day beginning on Monday.  You don’t have to be new blogger to be featured.  Heck, you can be a big blogger that wants extra exposure.  I’d be honored to feature any and all of you!

But in the meantime, I thought it’d be fun to have a party!  I like parties.  If it was possible to have you all over for a party, I’d do it in a heartbeat.  I thought this would be the next best thing:  a “Like” me on Facebook party!  How about it?  Wanna come?  Wanna make some new friends?  Wanna watch your Facebook numbers climb?


Here are the 4 simple partying guidelines:

1.  Link up your blog Facebook page;

2.  Add your blog name as the title of the link; and

3.  Visit the Facebook pages of the 2 links before you AND the 2 links after you and “Like” their Facebook pages.

4.  Please share this party on your Facebook page and Twitter so other bloggers can find the party!

That’s all there is to it!  The party is open until March 1st giving us plenty of time to mingle!

Please feel to free to “Like” more pages than what is required.  My hope is that it will be a great way for you to connect with some new bloggers and hopefully make some fantastic new friends!

Like your hearts out, Bloggers!

Thank you for reading!




  1. YOU are AWESOME!

    Thanks for the uplifting words this morning, Laura! :)


  2. A party is always a good idea ;-) Thanks for hosting and for your encouraging words. Have a great weekend!

  3. Thanks for this cool idea! Love it! I’d like to mention though that if we like other pages as our own FB page, the FB numbers don’t climb… :( not sure why that is?
    Laurie @Vin’yet Etc.

  4. Thank you so much for hosting this party!I will be back to like more :-).But I did like everyone before and after me <3 .Let's all share the love <3.
    Enjoyed this post too! I agree I am the same way say what you mean,mean what you say but don’t say it mean :-) . As I said in my last response I LOVE supporting other bloggers and small businesses too.I get excited when I hear someone has done something.Does not matter if they are a big blogger or small.I am truly happy for them.If good things come my way someday I hope I will receive the same.
    Have a wonderful weekend!

  5. What a great idea! Thanks for hosting and doing this for all of us! Kelly and Tiffany @

  6. I am already liking your facebook page and so glad I feature all size blogs in my Friday favorite room series. I also feature a mix from my party each week. I love finding new blogs, too. So much inspiration and talent out there.

  7. Wow…did I say WOW!!!! I new I wasn’t imagining things and that my CASPER COMPLEX wasn’t all in my head, lol! Thank You so much for this post and the previous one. I am still very naive when it comes to a lot of things, perhaps that is my problem…but I do believe that perhaps unconciously the big bloggers do tend to “overlook” the little ones for what reason…well to many to mention in this comment and it’s irrelevant to the fact that the exposure that you are given all of us is immensely appreciated and worth of praising. I do vow to be different and if I ever get to have a decent amount of followers I will be giving my support to the little bloggers all over the world (LOL…now I sound like a president candidate), following the great sisterhood you have shown us here! Thank You! I’m visiting all the blogs above me to show my support!

  8. Thanks for sharing your heart and for hosting the party :)

  9. Thanks for sharing your heart and for hosting the party!

  10. Thanks for sharing your support and encouraging all of us. This is a great idea!

  11. Thanks for sharing your support and encouragement for all of us! I think this is a great idea. :)

  12. PREACH IT!!! I know I left you a comment on FB yesterday!! BUT THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU.. from a smaller blog :) ~Bre

  13. Love this post and what you talked about on FB. I learned so much about you (and realize that we are pretty similar–love of antiques and decorating OCD–plus, I really never hide what I’m truly thinking.) Thanks for sharing and for hosting!


  14. Great idea on the fb party Laura! I haven’t seen many of those happening lately. And I totally knew exactly what you meant in your post!

  15. Thank you so much for hosting this Laura!

  16. I need to take this opportunity to tell you how much I respect your way of thinking and behaving. I tend to be “too honest” to my kids and have alienated them. They seem to think they can say whatever they want in any unpleasant way but if I respond in an honest way to their “attack” then they’re all bent out of shape at me and cut us off. Pretty hurtful.
    I am that way with friends I have and have had for years. They tell me they like that they know where they stand with me if they think they might have done something to offend me being honest. What they tell me might hurt for a little bit until I’ve had a chance to think about what they said then usually I have to agree with them about whatever behavior I exhibited upset them. I’m quick to apologize. Hey I know I’m not perfect, just honest and hopefully do what I do with integrity.
    Our kids have cut us off but won’t talk to us about what they’re upset about. When I try to talk to them and apologize they don’t want to discuss it, they’d rather be upset with me. They also love to blame me for whatever happens, even if I can show I’m not the person to be blamed. They don’t want to hear it. Sorry but about that time I’m pretty fed up with their attitude and tend to stay away from them.
    We have 4 kids but only one of them is more forgiving of their honest Mother. I’m not the kind of Mother to offer advise or make snotty comments, I let my kids (52/50/48/43) make their own mistakes, learn how to run their own lives. I’m also not one to say “after all I’ve done for you this is how you treat me”. I was raised that way and I have to say I’ve never agreed with using guilt to get my way.
    Thanks for being brave enough to talk about honesty.

  17. I have to say you are wonderful – you have such a natural way of writing your blog that you just really connect with people. Myself included. As a new blogger (as of January this year)…I would love to connect with other bloggers. I’m constantly amazed when someone I don’t know likes my posts – and getting a new follower – WAHOOOOOO!

    I have yet to do a facebook page for my blog…I do believe that may be tomorrows project. Once I get it done, I’ll happily return to this blog and connect up!

    Thank you for the opportunity – and thank you for caring about “the new or little guys”!

  18. I agree, Kim. I have found so many great blogs from your parties and have enjoyed being featured.

  19. Thanks for the party! I found some new fb pages to check out already.

  20. What an awesome idea! I’m happy to follow along!

  21. You just pushed me into the unknown, and I conquered my fear of computer “stuff”! I am so excited to figure how to have a FaceBook page for my blog. You probably do not realize how YOU, yes you, are giving us little ones freedom to fly! Thank you, thank you! Now I got to go and see the other pages.

  22. YOur honesty and bravery is to be applauded.

  23. Great idea! From one small blogger to another, thank you so much for the chance to grow my following a wee bit. I am going to “follow” your blog as well, not just your Facebook page. You rock!

  24. :) totally see where you’re coming from! thanks for the party!

  25. I just love your take on this whole “small bloggers deserve a chance too!” issue! I’ve been blogging for longer than many of the big bloggers, and sometimes I can feel a bit lost. But I know they’ve put way more time into their blogs than I can at this point in my life, so most of the time I just feel happy for the ones who’ve made it big ;-) And that one time The Nester linked to me was quite a thrill!

  26. thanks for hosting this great link-up – I have found some great new pages here

    Cheryl @ The Creative Me and My McG

  27. Thanks for hosting this party..I’m having so much FUN!


  28. Sorry! I entered my link twice at numbers 49 and 50 and don’t see the option to delete one. Would you do it, please? I’m generally not such a nuisance. :)

  29. Great idea! THANK YOU so much as this will help those like me who are just starting out online and are trying to figure out ways to get ourselves “out there” while we really don’t have a clue what we’re doing. ;)

  30. What a sweet idea! I often wonder why my numbers don’t grow. In the beginning on FB I would share and share and share, and everyone else’s numbers would grow and grow and grow, but mine would just hover, only going up slightly. I tried give-aways, the whole shabang. Then I started the blog, same thing. I thought it was because I didn’t “work it”, but even when I started linking up and posting more it still didn’t grow. I kept thinking maybe I was just wasting my time, but then I would see people and they would comment on how much they enjoyed the stories I wrote that went with each project so I realized that people do actually read it, they just don’t “follow” it for whatever reason. I used to get really depressed about it, but then one day last year I was really, really down and long story short it finally hit me that it didn’t matter what the number said, all that mattered was that the people who asked me to do things for them were happy with my work. If I made them smile that was really all that mattered! I even wrote a blog post about it. So sorry to ramble on, just thought there were probably others who felt the same way. Thanks for thinking of “little” guys!


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